Our son is a month old now. I've got a little perspective on things, having had an hour long nap earlier today. And here's one of the hidden secrets of parenting: you two will fight a lot.
Partly it'll be disagreements about what the best way is to do some minor service for your infant: a diaper should be changed this way, burping should be done that way.
(I snapped at Venece when we were trimming HG's nails for the first time. She did one hand, then I did the other. When she made a small suggestion, I said, "You've trimmed 4 more baby nails than me and now you're an expert?" My tone wasn't very loving. I probably felt criticized rather than helped.)
Whatever works at a given moment is best. I tell you that now, and you know it now, but remember it for later. Remember it for when your child is born. Don't snap at your wife when she tries to help you with some new babychore.
You'll fight about feelings. Your wife's hormones will be a stew, and yours will be to. Mine were, and I'm an average guy. You're about like me. So you'll be hormonal.
But mostly you'll fight because you're sleep deprived. Jason told this to me a few months ago. He also told me a few other things.
Remember: it's the sleep deprivation. You two still love each other.
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